The Legion, otherwise known as Keeping the voices at bay....

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Okay so I'm annoyed and it's my own damn fault for asking.

See I post on a pregnancy bulletin board and I asked a question and the answers I got seriously annoyed me cause they were no help at all. Not only that but they were a trifle insulting. But I have no one to blame but myself because I was the one who actually asked.

My question was this:

My two closest friends are having a baby shower in a few weeks for and we've got a little dilemma. See, my community is very small. We don't have a lot of big name stores around and none of them do baby registries. I'd do an online one but maybe two people on the guestlist know how to even use a computer. Not exactly ideal. If it was anything else I wouldn't really care what people got me. The problem is I have very specific tastes as to brands, mostly due to rather extensive research and testing. Plus I'm breast feeding so I'd really like some bf stuff. One of my friends suggested we include a list of what's needed, nothing real specific just preferred brands and what kinds of things I need [ie. onesies, diaper bag, bottle warmer...etc.] My other friend said she thought the idea was tacky.

We've been arguing about this for awhile now and we have to send out the invitations soon. So you can see the dilemma.

Now here's where I get annoyed. One lady thought I was being too structured about brands. Even went so far as to say that since this is my first baby that I wouldn't have a clue about what brands are better. Another lady said that I'd be better off not even worrying about it and leaving it word of mouth as I'd probably end up returning most of it anyway. The other two women that replied not only said that the idea was tacky and that I should get over my 'specific tastes' and be grateful for what I get.

Personally I don't see what the big deal is. I mean if you register anywhere you usually include that in your invitations, right? And what is a registry but a detailed list of exactly what you want. What's the difference here? If anything I would think it would be less pushy since you're not requesting specific items like you do with a registry. I think we should just add a little blurb on the bottom of the invitation that says something to the effect of: "Please ask hostesses for a list of items the family needs".

And even though I'm very much annoyed and just a little pissed at the answers, I'm more mad at myself for asking the question in the first place.